I guess it was never meant to be. It's just something we have no control over

I think it's through maturity that people don't believe in soul mates. That when they find true love they realize that that person is BEST for them but that nobody is meant for each other. Because it's ludacris to think that we spend our whole life looking for the one and only person that can complete us. Its sad to think that. There is someone out there that compliments us in the best way possible and better than anyone else, but we should be complete on our own. It's sad to think that you aren't. We need to be strong on our own and stop relying on others around us. I don't believe in soul mates. Or even in perfect matches exactly. I believe in best matches and in best mates. But you could go along completely happy with someone else in life. And honestly that best person for us changes as we change in ourselves. As our environment and as our situations change so does that person. And there's choice factored in too. We choose what we want, and it's funny, but we usually choose people that project the same qualities as we do. It's extremely funny to watch people find partners because they try to find a partner that is an imitation of them. So look at your partner. You chose them because you saw yourself. Is that really how you want to be? And will you be that way forever? Will they? The answers could always change. Always rearrange. And that's why perfect matches aren't possible. And quite truthfully I don't find this depressing. I find it liberating.